The choice is yours.

We define our level of worth. Not our career, our bodies, our friends or family but us. What we allow is how we define ourselves this means anything negative or anything positive in our lives because we create our own reality. Now this may be something difficult to hear because there may be some real negatives or horrors going on. And if that is the case I am sorry that you are dealing with that but you are in control of you. We always have a choice even if the choices aren’t always the easiest. 

Speaking from my own personal experience I know what it’s like to feel like you can’t do it without your partner or rise up because you were told how worthless you were but that stuff is never about them, its about what you are allowing for yourself. It’s always about you and what you believe. Same for our reality. What we believe is what becomes so, and no this isn’t some wishful thinking stuff. I’m talking about your thoughts dictate life around you so if you are settling to be with someone because you can’t do any better than guess what you are right. If you believe everyday is the same then guess what you are right again. Because everything involving you from the way you talk to yourself, to what you allow, to how you allow others to treat you, to your dreams and goals and so on is what will exist in your life. 

So what does this mean? That if you don’t like something then you get to change it. You don’t like your body, then eat better and workout or find a routine that will allow you to get the body you want. You don’t like your relationship, leave, work on yourself and figure out what you want out of a relationship and demand it. You don’t like your job, quit. The only thing holding you back is fear of lack. You use that lack mentality to make all the excuses for why you can’t, well I won’t have money to pay my bills. But if you hate your job and its more like indentured servitude where you have no life is getting behind on bills temporarily better than a lack of fulfillment? 

How much is your life worth to you? Really think about this, I don’t want you to think about money or relationships or any of those external things outside of you. I want you to look at you and really ask yourself how much you are worth. Are you worth the late nights of worrying and crying for a relationship that drains you? Are you worth the long hours for a thankless job that leave you depleted and unsatisfied? Are you worth the bullshit story you tell yourself about how you aren’t good enough or pretty enough or successful enough? If you believe your worth is dependent on any of these things than your life will remain the same but if you get a whiff of something like ohhh damn, I am so much better than this or I deserve so much more then that’s when you will start to be the change. 

Life isn’t positive or negative, it just is. We give it the charge, we say life is unfair but in reality you are the one who is making life unfair. Sure obstacles happen, sure shit happens but if you constantly put the demeanor of woah is me, this is my life and sit in your little victim shit pile hoping someone is going to pity your ass then you won’t ever raise your vibration. You get to chose every moment how you want to live your life, through mindset, through your speech, through how you interpret things, through how you look at the world. So where does this leave you? Do you keep singing the same damn sad song wondering when you are going to catch a break, if so then give yourself one. Start shifting your mindset, shifting how you take things because when you do this that is when you own yourself and take responsibility for everything that happens to you. And quite honestly I can tell you this till I’m blue in the face but until you do it and begin to really see this truth you will think I am just preaching and that it’s not possible for you. 

So what I am going to challenge you to do is start shifting you mentality. Leave yourself post it notes, listen to uplifting and motivational speeches, make friends with some positive influences, educate yourself, wake up and go workout, start doing the work to change your life. Otherwise you will keep crying wonder when someone will come save you because your victim mentality is like poor me I can’t save myself. Listen you can but that requires time, patience and commitment to work. And I’m not talking about a job, I’m talking about putting an effort into your own life and investing in you. Are you ready to take that gamble? Or are you going to keep QQing about how life is just unfair? Like always my friend the choice is yours.