Getting over the hump
So you have a goal and you are feeling stuck in it. You start to doubt your own fucking greatness because this obstacle is tag teaming your ass with insecurities and fear. Your mind starts piling on all the excuses for why you can’t follow through and eventually all that input is like you know what you are right I can’t do this. Or maybe you are on the verge of success or are already successful but you start to flatline and need someone too defibrillate you and get that heart pumping again so that way you don’t crumble to it. So what do you do? How do you shove this shitstorm aside and move forward?
1. I want you to look at where you are right now. Recognize. You have made it to this point now and have already had your fare share of mistakes and obstacles. They were there for you to bring you here. Everything you have done good, bad, indifferent, they are what shaped you right now. Accept them and be grateful for them because they showed you your human, they showed you what you want and don’t want. Even if you did some fucked up shit it’s okay, we all make mistakes, we all need something hard in order to learn.
2. Get uncomfortable. This is going to make your skin crawl. It’s going to bring up even more doubt and fear, irritability, and a loss of control but thats okay, that is progress. If you are living in comfort then you aren’t evolving. You aren’t progressing, your stagnant. Have you ever looked back on old shops that were in your neighborhood? Like maybe they aren’t there anymore or maybe they became bigger, more advanced? That is the same with you, you are a business and you can stay the same and hopes to be able to have a 401k, or you can not change with the times and crumble and now you aren’t even in business anymore coasting by on autopilot, or you can grow. Maybe open up a few more shops and create a following, market your own brand and become abundant as hell. Getting uncomfortable means doing things you haven’t done before. Learning new tasks that you never tried. Pushing through a run to bring your mile time down even if you are dead. Uncomfortable should be your new best friend because that is where stars are made.
3. Ground yourself in what is in your control. Which is you, your actions, your feelings, your thoughts. Ground yourself in reality. Sometimes we can get carried away by endless nonsensical thoughts. These derail us from where we are going. They shatter our integrity and self respect by just a single doubt. It’s funny how all your building up can result in turmoil by a single thought, huh? Is the situation really as bad as you think? Or are you in panic mode because you have fear, you have low self worth, you don’t see the progress? Breathe, give yourself a second to feel that feeling and then let it go and move forward. All it is is an alert, like a text message. Hey are you really still watching, as Netflix puts it. Those panic modes are like hey are you really sure you want to go outside what is comfortable? The choice is your to ground yourself and take charge.
4. Follow through. If you say something you make a verbal agreement. It is up to you to allow your words to be just letters floating in one ear and out the other, or if you are going to enforce their meaning with action. I said I wanted to read my cleanse book within a week. Did I? No. I didn’t follow through with it but I have been using my recipes and reading it, I just didn’t do it in the time frame I said. Now for my blog I have written everyday since the start of Dare to Habit. Even when I have nothing to really write about or am not feeling it I follow through anyways.
5. Chose a time frame. Get realistic here. I was not realistic when it came to reading a monster book in a week and starting my cleanse. And because I wasn’t realistic it discouraged me from pursuing it at the same intensity as when I started. If you don’t reach your time frame don’t be like oh hey I didn’t finish it OH WELL. NO!!! Recalibrate yourself. It’s okay if you have to take longer, don’t let that stop you from pursuing it. Jump on board and hop right back on that horse. Sometimes we don’t reach things in the time we allowed, let it be a lesson for when you want to do something similar in the future. Maybe you realize hey I am not a fast reader so let me allocate a month to read or 2 months. That way you can make real expectations and get real results. It’s important to know your strengths and your weaknesses.
Now this is just some of the things that can allow you to get over your hump. Make a list of all these steps and see how you can implement them into your life. Maybe one of them works for you or all of them do. Find your own techniques in how to unlock you. Because you can read all the words you want, but it really comes down to you. You have to work on you. You have to do the work.
Today I was at a 6 but then by the end of the day I went to a 7. Hangover from eating marshmallows, coconut and chocolate. Yes you can have food hangovers.