Limits

Limits are a number of how much you are capable of and there is no going past this. Now here’s for the truth, a limit is a lie. Because the thing is whatever you think you can do, you always can do more. I use to put a limit on my finances. I will have x amount of money in my savings and what happened? Anytime I went over that limit my brain would be like well Hope, we are only suppose to have this amount we are going over we need to remedy this situation. So what would I do? Spend it. And it dawned on me today that this was happening while working with one of my clients. 

I had taken my finances and instead of expanding how much I can have I was using goals and markers but never changing the markers once I reached the goal. So anything extra would be spent, or used, or lately invested in the stock market. I am working on learning how to do the stock market so that I can have a bright and happy future. Look at me go, my dad would be so proud, well actually he is, or so he says. But this is a big topic not just for my finances but everything in my life. 

I place limits on my career, on my relationships, my life and what did I say this year was for me? THE YEAR OF EXPANSION!! So day 1 of my new year I learned already what it is I have been doing to stunt my growth or stay stuck. I put limits on where I am instead of being open to the possibilities of more, and revamping my current status to meet my future goals. Boy that is huge. I wonder what else I have limited in my life without realizing it? The only reason I realized the finance thing was because numbers are a tangible thing that I can see. So now its time to take a look at all the things I place limits on, and write out what I want to do to expand them.

-I place a limit on my friendships. How close people are to me, and how many people actually know me. I limit my interactions with friends and how often I get together with others. 

Why?

Because I had to ask permission in the past to have friend. I have a hard time with awkwardness and silence. I enjoy my time to myself for recharging. I have been hurt by people I thought were friends numerous times. How my siblings are with me is how I view other relationships with others (they only contact me when they need something.) That estrangement with them has caused a rift for me in how I allow others in. 

All of these reasons make me put a limit on my friendships and thus my circle is small, with few interactions. 

This is what I want you to do, look at something you wish to change in your life. It can be absolutely anything and then see where your limit is? What is the story you tell yourself about it? Where is the place you reach and when you get there you self sabotage? I know my flaws, but I haven’t looked into where my limits are. Those I think are more critical than any flaw you have. They tell you to stop, to not try, to go back to where that limit was placed and stay there. This can be hard to do and find so draw out a road map. Start with one subject and do a bubble brainstorm, where you have the first idea and then other things branch off of that one. The technical word for this is escaping me. Doing this will allow you to understand where your limit is and how you can change it. Tomorrow I want to talk about affirmations that allow us to change our limits. I will be putting this to the test this year. 

I am able to go beyond all past limitations.

I know that there are no limitations to life, save those created by my thoughts.

Those are a few I will be adding to my daily practice! I hope you take the time to self reflect here. It truly will help in your growth and where you are going. Be amazing, love your bad bitch friend Hope!

Today was a 9.