Date Night
Relationships can become stagnant, even boring. There are parts that become so routine and mundane that you ask for something to breathe new life into it. I’ve been there with my ex’s one being 8 years and engaged and the other was about 2 years. After a little bit you miss that little honeymoon bubble of newness and excitement. Getting to know your partner is the fun part, always stories of self discovery are ones that get your heart pumping. That is why getting into a relationship you have that approx. 6 month honeymoon bubble because it’s all new and exciting.
So what can you do to keep it new and exciting? Well go out and adventure together. Like for instance me and my boo have been together a year and almost half. We have had mostly ups but a few spots that were challenged, and that only started because the bubble was being popped. For me that was scary because I didn’t want to lose him or the feelings for him. The dynamic changed and a lot of my own insecurities came into play. But soon after I began to gain resolve in myself and own those insecurities our relationship got better. Communication, qualitiy time and did I say communication!
Today we had our first adventure date day since pre corona. We went to the chiropractor together, then golfed, and then drove down to a Michelin awarded restaurant to stuff our faces! We laughed all day, joked, and just got to spend quality time with one another. All while listening to Harry Potter on audiobook and finishing with a few video games. I don’t know about you but this is the kind of day I am trying to create for myself everyday! It was everything I wanted to do plus what he wanted to do!
If you have been feeling stuck or stagnant talk about it. Hold space for your partner without judgement. Remember you chose them, you wanted them in your life, they are flawed humans just like you. So approach it in a way that isn’t going to cause defenses to go up, or sound accusatory. Ask them what you guys could do together on an adventure. Or plan a 5k with them. Get intimate in a way you guys can bring down your walls and just laugh and be authentically you with each other. And if you have a hard time with that is there any work you must do first on you? If so, it’s totally okay. Get in touch with your roots, dance in your underwear, find ways to feel bliss with yourself so that way you can allow yourself to with another. Your partner should be an extension of you, someone to build up and support and vice versa, not your world. Relationships are for 2 people who want to build greatness together and still keep their individuality. Don’t allow insecurity or negative drama creep in and undo that. I know it can be difficult, but use that as the fire to go deeper, to become better.
Today was a 10!